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Do You Need Some Understanding?
As you read this blog post, image the song “What I Need From You Is Understanding” by the group XScape playing in the background.
Have you ever said, “They just don’t understand me”?
We all feel that way sometimes.
And it’s okay if certain people don’t “get” who we are.
That fact shouldn’t have a direct affect on our life.
The real question is “Do YOU truly understand yourself?”
Sir: Madam: Your Carriage Awaits!
Your Journey Starts Here!
I am sure you have heard a similar statement before, especially at the beginning of each new year-a time where everyone is hyped up to make a change, to do something different, to conquer a small part of the world.
During that time we are consumed with all types of advertisements, emails, podcasts, blog posts, books, and social media posts yelling
CRUSH YOUR GOALS THIS YEAR
INVEST IN YOURSELF
JOIN THIS CHALLENGE TO BE A BETTER YOU
LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE
FOR A HEALTHIER AND HAPPIER YOU FOLLOW ME
MAKE $1000 A MONTH WITH THIS SIDE GIG
THIS IS THE BEST DIET
We think, “THIS IS MY YEAR!”
So we relish in the grandeur of accomplishing our goals.
We can see it.
We can taste it.
It appears to be within our grasp.
A month or two later-Puff…
Just like that, those goals have faded, put on the “back-burner” or disappeared altogether.
Unfortunately, it happens.
We are only human.
Life gets in the way of us trying to “get a life.”
But what can help up get back on track?
It’s one of the first essential thing that many self-improvement blogs, podcasts, and even books do not address.
It is the thing that needs to be addressed before attempting to accomplish goals or before a self-improvement plan can be developed.
And that is SELF-UNDERSTANDING.
Self Understanding is having a clear view of your personality, how you do things, how you perceive things, and how you react or feel about other people, things, and situations. It helps us to examine our strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivations, and emotions.
In other words, self-understanding is about being honest about Who We Are.
When we take an honest inventory of ourselves and our lives, we discover that there may be other things, people, situations that are holding us back from being successful or truly happy. Those issues need to be addressed before we conquer our goals and create the life we want to live.
Additional self-understanding allows our self-improvement and personal growth goals become clear.
Consider these questions:
So start on your journey to self-understanding with this self-improvement and personal development/growth needs assessment workbook.
The questions in the workbook only you and you alone can answer. It’s going to take some soul searching. Use the following advice to get you prepared:
Stop Looking Outside Yourself For Happiness
Look inside. Get curious about who you are at the core. Cultivate and nurture a relationship with yourself. Similarly, take the time to address your personal needs. How can you focus on Thriving in your life if you are in Survival mode? Take care of those issues that will hinder you from accomplishing your goals. Likewise, embrace your past And. Move. On. It does not have to define who you are and what you are capable of.
Do Not Compare Yourself With Others
How many of us fall victim to keeping up with the Joneses? If your friends are getting married and having kids, you begin to question if you should be taking the same steps towards the altar. If your best friend is going back to school, you also wonder if you should be going back to school for an advanced degree as well. Unfortunately, we have a terrible habit of comparing ourselves to others and using it to determine where it is we want to be. Stop measuring yourself against others. Although it is only natural to measure what we have to others, finding that there are gaps can cause you to self-criticize and stress about things that are beyond our control.
At the core of self-understanding is control. Self-understanding spits in the face of qualifying or quantifying your accomplishments against others. It challenges you to instead, evaluate where You Are as an individual and compare that finding with where it is you want to be.
Full Acceptance Of Self
Self-understanding requires us to accept ourselves for who we are in entirety. This requirement challenges each of us to acknowledge the good and bad of who we are. You must love yourself for your faults and the precious gifts (aka your strengths) that you can give the world.
This step is all about full recognition of who you are and how you use your assets and flaws to reach your fullest potential. You must have the capacity to find humor in everything about yourself and not take yourself too seriously while also having compassion for others and their uniqueness from who you are.
Recognize That You Are In Control
With self-understanding, you control your destiny even with external influences poised to impact your behavior and overall strategy.
Self-understanding, however, is also about self-awareness. Self-awareness helps you to see that your work is never complete. It requires continuous growth and evolution of self from a personal and professional standpoint. Thus, our state of fulfillment is temporary.
If you are operating in a self-understanding state, you will continue to be true to who you are and learn how to navigate situations based on your strengths and weaknesses.
The self-understanding journey is never-ending. As you master one area of your life, you jog over to the next area of your life that requires attention. This effort is a cycle and therefore, over time, do not be surprised if you find yourself working on some part of who you are for a second, third, or fourth time.
The bottom line is that we can have the desire to get healthier, lose weight, get out of debt, reinvent ourselves, etc., but unless we put forth a genuine effort to first self-understand, we will more likely end up where we started.
That’s why resolutions often fail.
So, your journey does start here.
Really, it does, with this blog Ode 2 the Good Life where we celebrate the life we have while creating the life we want.
And besides, what do you have to lose by reading one more Self-Improvement blog?